Comments for Bulimia http://www.bulimiahope.com Bulimia Treatment & Recovery Thu, 05 Jan 2012 18:58:56 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.4 Comment on Suspicious Bulimia Behavior? by Vathani http://www.bulimiahope.com/about-bulimia/loved-ones/suspicions/comment-page-1/#comment-771 Vathani Thu, 05 Jan 2012 18:58:56 +0000 http://www.bulimiahope.com/about-bulimia/loved-ones/suspicions/#comment-771 Dear Chari, thank you for this blog post.. Hope your New Year has started with a hope and happiness both for you and your family? <strong>Gender of the sufferer has no difference, as the complexities of the insecurities, fears , compensations, personality traits, poor food relationship and so on are all similar if not the same as in female sufferer.</strong> Sadly the way bulimia is presented can be very easily camouflaged with their apparent <strong>adonis</strong> complexes.. This is where the physique of the obscession via an overly healthy behaviours like going to the gym regularly masks the symptoms of the bulimic ways.. much like in us ladies if our method of bulimic compensation is via exercise. <strong>Losing 60lbs in mere 6months is already showing drastic consequences of his bulimia Chari</strong>. How old is your brother? Do you feel he would be receptive to speaking to one of the trusted family members like your self openly about his fears and anxieties? or even an outsider like me who works in this field? Email me directly or get him to visit this website or other very resourceful websites on <strong>Bulimia recovery and treatment.. </strong>so you can help him sense the danger of his ways , if he were to carry on heading in this direction. we are here to help.. so please be in touch. I wish you well.. with warm wishes ~ Vathani Dear Chari, thank you for this blog post.. Hope your New Year has started with a hope and happiness both for you and your family? Gender of the sufferer has no difference, as the complexities of the insecurities, fears , compensations, personality traits, poor food relationship and so on are all similar if not the same as in female sufferer. Sadly the way bulimia is presented can be very easily camouflaged with their apparent adonis complexes.. This is where the physique of the obscession via an overly healthy behaviours like going to the gym regularly masks the symptoms of the bulimic ways.. much like in us ladies if our method of bulimic compensation is via exercise. Losing 60lbs in mere 6months is already showing drastic consequences of his bulimia Chari. How old is your brother? Do you feel he would be receptive to speaking to one of the trusted family members like your self openly about his fears and anxieties? or even an outsider like me who works in this field? Email me directly or get him to visit this website or other very resourceful websites on Bulimia recovery and treatment.. so you can help him sense the danger of his ways , if he were to carry on heading in this direction. we are here to help.. so please be in touch. I wish you well.. with warm wishes ~ Vathani

]]> Comment on Suspicious Bulimia Behavior? by Vathani http://www.bulimiahope.com/about-bulimia/loved-ones/suspicions/comment-page-1/#comment-770 Vathani Thu, 05 Jan 2012 18:46:26 +0000 http://www.bulimiahope.com/about-bulimia/loved-ones/suspicions/#comment-770 Thank you for sharing. I appreciate your comment. You make some wonderful points. (sorry don't know your name!). Bulimia is never just about the weight..you are right there! It is far <strong>more psychologically complex place of inner demons of insecurities, predispositions of poor coping skills, complex event reinforcements, and behavioural installations that culminates in that deep rooted unhappiness over the eaten food ..of comfort through food in the first place</strong>. Body image is one such part. It is also true many are <strong>trapped in a long and difficult vicious cycles that could be broken, if earlier help from outside is sought.</strong> 20yrs in Bulimia counselling I can vouch for this.. those who <strong>recover faster </strong>are not only <strong>those catch this early on, but also seek the support system outside of one self.</strong> We humans have so many blindspots , even when things in life are going well.. to pick at something that is emotionally complex cannot always be done by the person themselves.. It is ofcourse a matter of choice as to how one feels , what type of help they personally prefer and just how long they wish to take about their recovery. That remains an individual's own choice . Another helpful point you make, about letting loved ones who suffer from Bulimia..know that <strong>they are loved is a greated place to start for many, and a sentiment that truly reflects understanding, empathy and love in an unconditional way.</strong> This process that embarks on building back that <strong>broken self worth </strong>is always a great gift offer in <strong>building back the sufferer's high self esteem</strong>. With warmest wishes ~ Vathani Thank you for sharing. I appreciate your comment. You make some wonderful points. (sorry don’t know your name!). Bulimia is never just about the weight..you are right there! It is far more psychologically complex place of inner demons of insecurities, predispositions of poor coping skills, complex event reinforcements, and behavioural installations that culminates in that deep rooted unhappiness over the eaten food ..of comfort through food in the first place. Body image is one such part. It is also true many are trapped in a long and difficult vicious cycles that could be broken, if earlier help from outside is sought. 20yrs in Bulimia counselling I can vouch for this.. those who recover faster are not only those catch this early on, but also seek the support system outside of one self. We humans have so many blindspots , even when things in life are going well.. to pick at something that is emotionally complex cannot always be done by the person themselves.. It is ofcourse a matter of choice as to how one feels , what type of help they personally prefer and just how long they wish to take about their recovery. That remains an individual’s own choice . Another helpful point you make, about letting loved ones who suffer from Bulimia..know that they are loved is a greated place to start for many, and a sentiment that truly reflects understanding, empathy and love in an unconditional way. This process that embarks on building back that broken self worth is always a great gift offer in building back the sufferer’s high self esteem. With warmest wishes ~ Vathani

]]> Comment on Stop Binging & Purging by Vathani http://www.bulimiahope.com/bulimia-treatment/binging-purging/comment-page-1/#comment-769 Vathani Thu, 05 Jan 2012 18:31:17 +0000 http://www.bulimiahope.com/bulimia-treatment/binging-purging/#comment-769 Happy New Year to you ..ALL ! You are most welcome Kim! I appreciate your truth and the reality of what it really takes to shift the corner. It's so worth knowing, once you decide..the hardest part is actually OVER .. then it is as you say, <strong>perserverence on a daily basis </strong>.. no easy short cuts, no quick fixes.. but it is all worth it for the true happiness we stand to gain at the other end. For many 1st sign of any hurdle, they are already packing up their dreams and putting it back in the loft. There's always hope and progress, if you are willing. Kim, <strong>well done </strong>for looking at you self, perhaps in way others dread to do..but through your amazing dedication to your self, you have now identified the solutions to your own triggers! How wonderful & exciting times ahead for you! <strong>Now just keep up the momentum as you keep reinventing your self. </strong>All my best wishes to you ! wishes Vathani Happy New Year to you ..ALL ! You are most welcome Kim! I appreciate your truth and the reality of what it really takes to shift the corner. It’s so worth knowing, once you decide..the hardest part is actually OVER .. then it is as you say, perserverence on a daily basis .. no easy short cuts, no quick fixes.. but it is all worth it for the true happiness we stand to gain at the other end. For many 1st sign of any hurdle, they are already packing up their dreams and putting it back in the loft. There’s always hope and progress, if you are willing. Kim, well done for looking at you self, perhaps in way others dread to do..but through your amazing dedication to your self, you have now identified the solutions to your own triggers! How wonderful & exciting times ahead for you! Now just keep up the momentum as you keep reinventing your self. All my best wishes to you ! wishes Vathani

]]> Comment on Stop Binging & Purging by Kim http://www.bulimiahope.com/bulimia-treatment/binging-purging/comment-page-1/#comment-768 Kim Wed, 04 Jan 2012 14:17:03 +0000 http://www.bulimiahope.com/bulimia-treatment/binging-purging/#comment-768 Thank you! Great way to lay it all out. I just did the exercise in number one and i think ive come up with some great solutions to my triggehe truth is,that we have to reallybe ready to face ourselves and do the work....overcoming this cant be a passive activity and we cant be defeatists about it either. We have to be realistic, be kind to ourselves and keep doing the work to get ourselves into a healthier mind set and behaviors. This is a great article and im endlessly appreciative :) cheers, Kim Thank you! Great way to lay it all out. I just did the exercise in number one and i think ive come up with some great solutions to my triggehe truth is,that we have to reallybe ready to face ourselves and do the work….overcoming this cant be a passive activity and we cant be defeatists about it either. We have to be realistic, be kind to ourselves and keep doing the work to get ourselves into a healthier mind set and behaviors. This is a great article and im endlessly appreciative :) cheers, Kim

]]> Comment on Suspicious Bulimia Behavior? by Anonymous http://www.bulimiahope.com/about-bulimia/loved-ones/suspicions/comment-page-1/#comment-767 Anonymous Sun, 01 Jan 2012 21:45:11 +0000 http://www.bulimiahope.com/about-bulimia/loved-ones/suspicions/#comment-767 i used to suffer from bulimia myself, and all i can say is that we feel better after purging like this huge weight has been lifted of our shoulders and that we feel better about ourselves after, we don't have to binge in order to purge... we could had had a half a tuna sandwich and still feel disgusted with ourselves. Bulimia isn't just being insecure about how much we weigh but its a whole other string of emotions attached to it. All i can say to those who are suffering or are in recovery is that you don't necessarily need a support group to make the first step, you need to accept yourself and love yourself for who you are. Bulimia makes you stronger in the end, understanding how to deal with it becomes part of who you are. For all of you trying to help victims out there remember, while it scary for you its ten times more frightening for the person crouching over the toilet, if you really love them, remind them of how important they are and how much they mean to everyone else. hoped this helped :) i used to suffer from bulimia myself, and all i can say is that we feel better after purging like this huge weight has been lifted of our shoulders and that we feel better about ourselves after, we don’t have to binge in order to purge… we could had had a half a tuna sandwich and still feel disgusted with ourselves. Bulimia isn’t just being insecure about how much we weigh but its a whole other string of emotions attached to it. All i can say to those who are suffering or are in recovery is that you don’t necessarily need a support group to make the first step, you need to accept yourself and love yourself for who you are. Bulimia makes you stronger in the end, understanding how to deal with it becomes part of who you are. For all of you trying to help victims out there remember, while it scary for you its ten times more frightening for the person crouching over the toilet, if you really love them, remind them of how important they are and how much they mean to everyone else. hoped this helped :)

]]> Comment on Suspicious Bulimia Behavior? by Chari http://www.bulimiahope.com/about-bulimia/loved-ones/suspicions/comment-page-1/#comment-766 Chari Wed, 28 Dec 2011 02:58:13 +0000 http://www.bulimiahope.com/about-bulimia/loved-ones/suspicions/#comment-766 What if the person you are concerned about is male? Should you approach the topic differently? My brother has lost about 60 lbs in the past 6 months, but he started eating healthy and running so I didn't think anything of it. Lately my boyfriend(who is also his best friend) and I have caught him throwing up after meals. At first we didn't think too much into it but now that it's happened multiple times I am concerned. Please give advice. What if the person you are concerned about is male? Should you approach the topic differently?

My brother has lost about 60 lbs in the past 6 months, but he started eating healthy and running so I didn’t think anything of it. Lately my boyfriend(who is also his best friend) and I have caught him throwing up after meals. At first we didn’t think too much into it but now that it’s happened multiple times I am concerned.

Please give advice.

]]> Comment on Swollen Glands and Your Bulimia by Liz http://www.bulimiahope.com/bulimia-treatment/swollen-glands-bulimia/comment-page-1/#comment-765 Liz Tue, 29 Nov 2011 07:53:39 +0000 http://www.bulimiahope.com/bulimia-treatment/swollen-glands-bulimia/#comment-765 I just came across this article and would like to give everyone struggling with bulimia right now a HUGE hug. I myself have struggled with it, to varying degrees of severity - which i hated, for about 15 years. My binges have become less and less frequent (probably every six months) and i would like to stop completely, but it is mostly therapy, long-term for me, that has been required to dig around underneath the behaviour and what i'm using it to mask. The approach to recovery will probably be different for everyone. But i would like to say that for the longest, longest time I thought that this was something that I would have to live with forever, that would mark me out, keep me separate from the world. I'm still working on a lot of other issues but YOU CAN GET BETTER! It actually happens (and this is from someone who never thought i would). Much love and and hope and hugs to everyone - it can happen. Just take the steps to get into recovery and your life will be so much better at the end. xxx I just came across this article and would like to give everyone struggling with bulimia right now a HUGE hug. I myself have struggled with it, to varying degrees of severity – which i hated, for about 15 years. My binges have become less and less frequent (probably every six months) and i would like to stop completely, but it is mostly therapy, long-term for me, that has been required to dig around underneath the behaviour and what i’m using it to mask. The approach to recovery will probably be different for everyone.
But i would like to say that for the longest, longest time I thought that this was something that I would have to live with forever, that would mark me out, keep me separate from the world. I’m still working on a lot of other issues but YOU CAN GET BETTER! It actually happens (and this is from someone who never thought i would).
Much love and and hope and hugs to everyone – it can happen. Just take the steps to get into recovery and your life will be so much better at the end.
xxx

]]> Comment on Swollen Glands and Your Bulimia by sasha http://www.bulimiahope.com/bulimia-treatment/swollen-glands-bulimia/comment-page-1/#comment-764 sasha Mon, 14 Nov 2011 11:35:02 +0000 http://www.bulimiahope.com/bulimia-treatment/swollen-glands-bulimia/#comment-764 thank you for the website- the more info and support there is to help treat bulimia the better. I see a lot of the comments are from those beginning recovery- I'm also in the process of recovering-from 8 years of bulimia. I started out at 1 and 2 days of not purging...and when I got to three I was ecstatic. Months and months of therapy and plenty of successes (and setbacks), I'm now at 14 or so days at a time bulimia free, and setbacks only last one or two days at a time. I don't think I'll ever be completely 'recovered'- there will always be a vulnerability...but it is so nice to finally be able to take control of my life and be HAPPY and productive and in control and really ENJOY myself! Well done beautiful people you're travelling in the right direction! x*mwah*x thank you for the website- the more info and support there is to help treat bulimia the better.

I see a lot of the comments are from those beginning recovery- I’m also in the process of recovering-from 8 years of bulimia. I started out at 1 and 2 days of not purging…and when I got to three I was ecstatic. Months and months of therapy and plenty of successes (and setbacks), I’m now at 14 or so days at a time bulimia free, and setbacks only last one or two days at a time. I don’t think I’ll ever be completely ‘recovered’- there will always be a vulnerability…but it is so nice to finally be able to take control of my life and be HAPPY and productive and in control and really ENJOY myself!

Well done beautiful people you’re travelling in the right direction! x*mwah*x

]]> Comment on Swollen Glands and Your Bulimia by Tasha http://www.bulimiahope.com/bulimia-treatment/swollen-glands-bulimia/comment-page-1/#comment-761 Tasha Tue, 18 Oct 2011 00:43:07 +0000 http://www.bulimiahope.com/bulimia-treatment/swollen-glands-bulimia/#comment-761 This was an interesting bittersweet article! I was just wondering; I feel like I have aged so much since I've practiced my habits! I started when I was 15 and I'm now 19. I've never been underweight and I only threw up for the 2 first years of the 4 so far. I use laxatives instead- in large doses. I've been hospitalized once but that's about the extent of my damage. My teeth aren't rotten and everything seems to be working. My face always looks fat to me but my mom says it tends to swell when I'm at my worst. Can the glands still get swollen through laxatives somehow, or most likely not? Secondly, do most bulimics have face damage down the road from so much exhaustion- swelling, unselling-? One of my friends said this is true. I'm trying so hard to quit; wish I had never started and and just been happy being healthy. This was an interesting bittersweet article! I was just wondering; I feel like I have aged so much since I’ve practiced my habits! I started when I was 15 and I’m now 19. I’ve never been underweight and I only threw up for the 2 first years of the 4 so far. I use laxatives instead- in large doses. I’ve been hospitalized once but that’s about the extent of my damage. My teeth aren’t rotten and everything seems to be working. My face always looks fat to me but my mom says it tends to swell when I’m at my worst. Can the glands still get swollen through laxatives somehow, or most likely not? Secondly, do most bulimics have face damage down the road from so much exhaustion- swelling, unselling-? One of my friends said this is true.
I’m trying so hard to quit; wish I had never started and and just been happy being healthy.

]]> Comment on Stop Binging & Purging by megan http://www.bulimiahope.com/bulimia-treatment/binging-purging/comment-page-1/#comment-760 megan Fri, 14 Oct 2011 17:30:13 +0000 http://www.bulimiahope.com/bulimia-treatment/binging-purging/#comment-760 I want and need to stop so bad. this is a freaking nightmare. I'm not in control and hate to throw up but keep doing it. my throat hurts my ears hurt i have petikia in my eyes. im 32 and this is just ridiculous. throwing up 3-6 times a day. i'm better than this but just cant stop. I want and need to stop so bad. this is a freaking nightmare. I’m not in control and hate to throw up but keep doing it. my throat hurts my ears hurt i have petikia in my eyes. im 32 and this is just ridiculous. throwing up 3-6 times a day. i’m better than this but just cant stop.

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