Comments on: Suspicious Bulimia Behavior? http://www.bulimiahope.com/about-bulimia/loved-ones/suspicions/ Bulimia Treatment & Recovery Thu, 05 Jan 2012 18:58:56 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.4 By: Vathani http://www.bulimiahope.com/about-bulimia/loved-ones/suspicions/comment-page-1/#comment-771 Vathani Thu, 05 Jan 2012 18:58:56 +0000 http://www.bulimiahope.com/about-bulimia/loved-ones/suspicions/#comment-771 Dear Chari, thank you for this blog post.. Hope your New Year has started with a hope and happiness both for you and your family? <strong>Gender of the sufferer has no difference, as the complexities of the insecurities, fears , compensations, personality traits, poor food relationship and so on are all similar if not the same as in female sufferer.</strong> Sadly the way bulimia is presented can be very easily camouflaged with their apparent <strong>adonis</strong> complexes.. This is where the physique of the obscession via an overly healthy behaviours like going to the gym regularly masks the symptoms of the bulimic ways.. much like in us ladies if our method of bulimic compensation is via exercise. <strong>Losing 60lbs in mere 6months is already showing drastic consequences of his bulimia Chari</strong>. How old is your brother? Do you feel he would be receptive to speaking to one of the trusted family members like your self openly about his fears and anxieties? or even an outsider like me who works in this field? Email me directly or get him to visit this website or other very resourceful websites on <strong>Bulimia recovery and treatment.. </strong>so you can help him sense the danger of his ways , if he were to carry on heading in this direction. we are here to help.. so please be in touch. I wish you well.. with warm wishes ~ Vathani Dear Chari, thank you for this blog post.. Hope your New Year has started with a hope and happiness both for you and your family? Gender of the sufferer has no difference, as the complexities of the insecurities, fears , compensations, personality traits, poor food relationship and so on are all similar if not the same as in female sufferer. Sadly the way bulimia is presented can be very easily camouflaged with their apparent adonis complexes.. This is where the physique of the obscession via an overly healthy behaviours like going to the gym regularly masks the symptoms of the bulimic ways.. much like in us ladies if our method of bulimic compensation is via exercise. Losing 60lbs in mere 6months is already showing drastic consequences of his bulimia Chari. How old is your brother? Do you feel he would be receptive to speaking to one of the trusted family members like your self openly about his fears and anxieties? or even an outsider like me who works in this field? Email me directly or get him to visit this website or other very resourceful websites on Bulimia recovery and treatment.. so you can help him sense the danger of his ways , if he were to carry on heading in this direction. we are here to help.. so please be in touch. I wish you well.. with warm wishes ~ Vathani

]]> By: Vathani http://www.bulimiahope.com/about-bulimia/loved-ones/suspicions/comment-page-1/#comment-770 Vathani Thu, 05 Jan 2012 18:46:26 +0000 http://www.bulimiahope.com/about-bulimia/loved-ones/suspicions/#comment-770 Thank you for sharing. I appreciate your comment. You make some wonderful points. (sorry don't know your name!). Bulimia is never just about the weight..you are right there! It is far <strong>more psychologically complex place of inner demons of insecurities, predispositions of poor coping skills, complex event reinforcements, and behavioural installations that culminates in that deep rooted unhappiness over the eaten food ..of comfort through food in the first place</strong>. Body image is one such part. It is also true many are <strong>trapped in a long and difficult vicious cycles that could be broken, if earlier help from outside is sought.</strong> 20yrs in Bulimia counselling I can vouch for this.. those who <strong>recover faster </strong>are not only <strong>those catch this early on, but also seek the support system outside of one self.</strong> We humans have so many blindspots , even when things in life are going well.. to pick at something that is emotionally complex cannot always be done by the person themselves.. It is ofcourse a matter of choice as to how one feels , what type of help they personally prefer and just how long they wish to take about their recovery. That remains an individual's own choice . Another helpful point you make, about letting loved ones who suffer from Bulimia..know that <strong>they are loved is a greated place to start for many, and a sentiment that truly reflects understanding, empathy and love in an unconditional way.</strong> This process that embarks on building back that <strong>broken self worth </strong>is always a great gift offer in <strong>building back the sufferer's high self esteem</strong>. With warmest wishes ~ Vathani Thank you for sharing. I appreciate your comment. You make some wonderful points. (sorry don’t know your name!). Bulimia is never just about the weight..you are right there! It is far more psychologically complex place of inner demons of insecurities, predispositions of poor coping skills, complex event reinforcements, and behavioural installations that culminates in that deep rooted unhappiness over the eaten food ..of comfort through food in the first place. Body image is one such part. It is also true many are trapped in a long and difficult vicious cycles that could be broken, if earlier help from outside is sought. 20yrs in Bulimia counselling I can vouch for this.. those who recover faster are not only those catch this early on, but also seek the support system outside of one self. We humans have so many blindspots , even when things in life are going well.. to pick at something that is emotionally complex cannot always be done by the person themselves.. It is ofcourse a matter of choice as to how one feels , what type of help they personally prefer and just how long they wish to take about their recovery. That remains an individual’s own choice . Another helpful point you make, about letting loved ones who suffer from Bulimia..know that they are loved is a greated place to start for many, and a sentiment that truly reflects understanding, empathy and love in an unconditional way. This process that embarks on building back that broken self worth is always a great gift offer in building back the sufferer’s high self esteem. With warmest wishes ~ Vathani

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.bulimiahope.com/about-bulimia/loved-ones/suspicions/comment-page-1/#comment-767 Anonymous Sun, 01 Jan 2012 21:45:11 +0000 http://www.bulimiahope.com/about-bulimia/loved-ones/suspicions/#comment-767 i used to suffer from bulimia myself, and all i can say is that we feel better after purging like this huge weight has been lifted of our shoulders and that we feel better about ourselves after, we don't have to binge in order to purge... we could had had a half a tuna sandwich and still feel disgusted with ourselves. Bulimia isn't just being insecure about how much we weigh but its a whole other string of emotions attached to it. All i can say to those who are suffering or are in recovery is that you don't necessarily need a support group to make the first step, you need to accept yourself and love yourself for who you are. Bulimia makes you stronger in the end, understanding how to deal with it becomes part of who you are. For all of you trying to help victims out there remember, while it scary for you its ten times more frightening for the person crouching over the toilet, if you really love them, remind them of how important they are and how much they mean to everyone else. hoped this helped :) i used to suffer from bulimia myself, and all i can say is that we feel better after purging like this huge weight has been lifted of our shoulders and that we feel better about ourselves after, we don’t have to binge in order to purge… we could had had a half a tuna sandwich and still feel disgusted with ourselves. Bulimia isn’t just being insecure about how much we weigh but its a whole other string of emotions attached to it. All i can say to those who are suffering or are in recovery is that you don’t necessarily need a support group to make the first step, you need to accept yourself and love yourself for who you are. Bulimia makes you stronger in the end, understanding how to deal with it becomes part of who you are. For all of you trying to help victims out there remember, while it scary for you its ten times more frightening for the person crouching over the toilet, if you really love them, remind them of how important they are and how much they mean to everyone else. hoped this helped :)

]]> By: Chari http://www.bulimiahope.com/about-bulimia/loved-ones/suspicions/comment-page-1/#comment-766 Chari Wed, 28 Dec 2011 02:58:13 +0000 http://www.bulimiahope.com/about-bulimia/loved-ones/suspicions/#comment-766 What if the person you are concerned about is male? Should you approach the topic differently? My brother has lost about 60 lbs in the past 6 months, but he started eating healthy and running so I didn't think anything of it. Lately my boyfriend(who is also his best friend) and I have caught him throwing up after meals. At first we didn't think too much into it but now that it's happened multiple times I am concerned. Please give advice. What if the person you are concerned about is male? Should you approach the topic differently?

My brother has lost about 60 lbs in the past 6 months, but he started eating healthy and running so I didn’t think anything of it. Lately my boyfriend(who is also his best friend) and I have caught him throwing up after meals. At first we didn’t think too much into it but now that it’s happened multiple times I am concerned.

Please give advice.

]]> By: Nana Auvil http://www.bulimiahope.com/about-bulimia/loved-ones/suspicions/comment-page-1/#comment-758 Nana Auvil Sun, 17 Jul 2011 04:34:47 +0000 http://www.bulimiahope.com/about-bulimia/loved-ones/suspicions/#comment-758 Great post. I am facing a an individual of these problems. Great post. I am facing a an individual of these problems.

]]> By: Lucy http://www.bulimiahope.com/about-bulimia/loved-ones/suspicions/comment-page-1/#comment-755 Lucy Tue, 29 Mar 2011 17:09:53 +0000 http://www.bulimiahope.com/about-bulimia/loved-ones/suspicions/#comment-755 what do i do if i have a friend who is not bulimic but is trying to make herself throw up. she hasn't been successful yet but im scared that it is going to work one of these times. i told her that it is connected to her emotions. she keeps trying to do it and the only thing i can think of is trying to find help for her. like looking for groups or a support groups that talk to people about this. what do i do? thank you lucy what do i do if i have a friend who is not bulimic but is trying to make herself throw up. she hasn’t been successful yet but im scared that it is going to work one of these times. i told her that it is connected to her emotions. she keeps trying to do it and the only thing i can think of is trying to find help for her. like looking for groups or a support groups that talk to people about this. what do i do?
thank you
lucy

]]> By: Frances http://www.bulimiahope.com/about-bulimia/loved-ones/suspicions/comment-page-1/#comment-734 Frances Mon, 14 Jun 2010 16:36:34 +0000 http://www.bulimiahope.com/about-bulimia/loved-ones/suspicions/#comment-734 where can I get help for my daughter who is suffering with bulumia she has made the first step and has sorted out herself to get some help buit that was 5 months ago and she is still waiting to be seen they told her that it could take 6 months as this is on the nation health she will have to wait but is there anywhere that she could go to start sooner? are there any places that I could go to try and understand all of this? if you could help,in anyway I would appriciate it thank you Frances where can I get help for my daughter who is suffering with bulumia she has made the first step and has sorted out herself to get some help buit that was 5 months ago and she is still waiting to be seen they told her that it could take 6 months as this is on the nation health she will have to wait but is there anywhere that she could go to start sooner? are there any places that I could go to try and understand all of this? if you could help,in anyway I would appriciate it
thank you
Frances

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